Planning a wedding is a mix of excitement, spreadsheets, and deciding whether a five-tier cake is too much (it isn’t). But one decision that matters more than seating charts and napkin colours? Choosing the right gay wedding photographer.

Not because you need a specialist who only photographs LGBTQ weddings… but because you deserve someone who understands you, respects your relationship, and won’t make assumptions about roles, gender, or dynamics.

Here are a few things worth thinking about:

1. Do They Make You Feel Comfortable?

If you’re already stressed by the thought of posing or feeling “on show,” the photographer should be someone who puts you at ease. Check their portfolio and website language… do they talk to people or do they sound like a corporate brochure?

Your photographer will be with you all day. You need someone you’d happily share a table with at the reception.

2. Representation Matters

Look for examples of LGBTQ weddings in their portfolio. Not because straight photographers can’t photograph queer weddings, but because experience means confidence… and confidence means you won’t have to explain or educate on the day.

If a portfolio only shows traditional couple poses and gendered posing cues, it’s worth asking how they work with same-sex couples.

3. Their Approach to Photography

Some couples love editorial-style portraits. Others just want natural, candid, documentary coverage. Knowing the style you like helps narrow things down… and helps the photographer understand what matters to you.

(And if you hate posing? You’re not alone. Many couples do. A relaxed documentary style might be your best friend.)

4. Check Reviews and Testimonials

Couples will always tell you more honestly than websites. Look out for phrases like:

“We felt relaxed with them.”
“They blended in like a guest.”
“The photos feel like us.”

Those are green flags.

5. Have a Chat Before Booking

A simple call can tell you everything you need to know. If you feel comfortable, understood, and like the conversation flows easily… that’s a good sign.

Final Thoughts

Choosing a gay wedding photographer isn’t about labels… it’s about finding someone who respects your story and captures it authentically. Someone who sees you as a couple first… not a category. If you need more advice on planning a LGBTQ+ wedding take a look at Stonewall UK.

If you’re getting married in London and want natural, candid photography without the posing nonsense, I’d love to hear about your plans. Learn more about my approach as a London gay wedding photographer.